tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530607394447796199.post2424173237582060781..comments2024-03-24T01:36:05.928-07:00Comments on The Taming of L: Questions/AnswersMaster49http://www.blogger.com/profile/01687617346919148607noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530607394447796199.post-51519032470607275422013-07-09T19:20:51.247-07:002013-07-09T19:20:51.247-07:00Hi, I am new to reading your blog - just wanted to...Hi, I am new to reading your blog - just wanted to say I have enjoyed what I have read so far.<br />The relationship between you and L is very sweet to read about, you both have something my Husband and I are trying hard to obtain also in regards to this lifestyle!<br /><br />I loved the whole commercial break question/answer time that led to spanking, what a wonderful way to enjoy an evening!<br /><br />butterfly :)evolvedbutterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14397231152985016772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530607394447796199.post-71813669488509418462013-07-08T15:56:54.203-07:002013-07-08T15:56:54.203-07:00There's a huge difference between what occurs ...There's a huge difference between what occurs in an abusive relationship and what occurs in a D/s relationship, main one being that in D/s, what takes place is a consensual act between two people. And as in any relationship, its success is contingent upon the relationship between the two involved. With L and I, we had the foundation of a (vanilla) relationship in place before we started exploring D/s, so elements such as trust and love were already there. Trust is huge. Communication is huge. Moreso with D/s than vanilla. <br /><br />So to answer your question...how do I do what I do to L without feeling too dominant or abusive? Part of it is knowing her limits. A big part is being observant to how she reacts to a flogging or spanking. And of course a huge part is knowing that I am doing something to her that she likes. What turns her on. I will generally stop every now and then during a spanking session and reach underneath her to stroke her pussy. 10 times out of 10 I will find absolute wetness. 10 times out of 10, with the physical evidence of her arousal in place, I will resume the spanking.<br /><br />Hope this helps.Master49https://www.blogger.com/profile/01687617346919148607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530607394447796199.post-55152408897925337872013-07-08T15:07:26.324-07:002013-07-08T15:07:26.324-07:00I had one very brief D/s experience and it left a ...I had one very brief D/s experience and it left a bad impression upon me. It felt very abusive. I read some of your blogs and I do find a sense of beauty, love, acceptance and a deep connection but how do you manage that without it ever feeling or coming across as too much I guess "Dominance"? <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530607394447796199.post-47304314081027461682013-07-08T14:36:48.199-07:002013-07-08T14:36:48.199-07:00The connection time is important. Too many couples...The connection time is important. Too many couples don't consider it priority enough to make sure to schedule that time together into each day, or just about each day. It's great that you and L realize it and have set each other priority. Your relationship is strong and will only grow stronger. Jacquiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03977010794301234785noreply@blogger.com