Our D/s contract

Dominant and submissive contract

REVISED ON May 3, 2014

This contract is provided as a secure and binding agreement which defines in specific terms the relationship and interaction between two individuals, hereafter termed the submissive and the Dominant. This agreement 
is binding only between the two people listed above. This agreement must be entered voluntarily with both parties agreeing to the conditions.

This agreement is intended to guide the two individuals on their lifelong journey together, and while the primary intention is to please the Dominant, it is also intended to shape the submissive into a better, happier, and stronger woman, and to help the couple grow together spiritually, lovingly, mentally, and physically.

Section I: The Dominant’s role

a)    The Dominant agrees to care for the submissive to include tending to the physical safety and emotional and mental well-being of the submissive as long as He owns the submissive.

b)    The Dominant also accepts the commitment to treat the submissive properly, to train and discipline the submissive, punish the submissive, love the submissive, and use the submissive as He sees fit.

c)    The Dominant accepts the responsibility to use His power to mold and shape the submissive, assist the submissive to grow in strength, character, confidence and being, and to help her become a better woman in all areas of her life.

d)    The Dominant will not ever purposefully ignore the submissive.

e)    It shall be the Dominant’s duty, with applicable assistance from the submissive, to watch for and prevent any mental or emotional trauma which may stem from the condition of servitude, activities within the condition of service, or any other variable that is based within the confines of this contract.

f)     The Dominant will be faithful and monogamous to the submissive, and will be honest and loyal to her at all times.

g)    The Dominant will always be open to the submissive’s concerns and thoughts, worries and stresses, and will encourage her to always open up and express her feelings and concerns to Him without fear of punishment.

h)    The Dominant agrees to not submit the submissive to a session when he might not be in the proper frame of mind to administer it.

Section II: The submissive’s role

a)    The primary purpose of the submissive is to serve, obey, and please the Dominant, in a manner seem fit by the Dominant.

b)    The submissive will put her entire trust into the Dominant with the knowledge that He will never betray that trust.

c)    The submissive shall follow daily rituals and guidelines as established by the Dominant, with the understanding that breaking a ritual or guideline will lead to some form of punishment as dictated by the Dominant.

d)    The submissive agrees to follow the direction and commands from the Dominant as it pertains to her daily life, in areas both in and out of the bedroom.

e)    The submissive will always respond to the sexual needs of the Dominant at any time in any manner that he sees fit, unless responding to His needs violates any other aspect of this contract. This includes engaging in sexual activities with the Dominant that might be outside of her comfort zone but she will do them as they please her Sir.

f)     The submissive will be faithful and monogamous to the Dominant and the Dominant alone, and will not conduct herself in a manner with other men that may indicate to them that she is available or flirtatious, or make the Dominant feel that she is being flirtatious.

g)    The submissive will at all times act in a manner that is respectful of the Dominant, to include manners of speech, promptness, proper answers, obedience, loyalty, and honesty, with the understanding between both of them that the submissive shall not have to necessarily alter her personality.

h)    The submissive will take proper care of her body in a manner that is pleasing to the Dominant and with guidance from him if necessary.

i)      If the situation feels warranted by the Dominant, the Dominant may demand the submissive make other adjustments to lifestyle pertaining to cigarette smoking, alcohol consumption, or drug use.

j)      When not in His presence, the submissive will maintain regular contact with the Dominant, to include informing Him of her whereabouts and asking His permission before engaging in any social activities that do not involve Him. Regular contact is to include phone calls, text messages, or emails. The submissive will do everything in her capacity to respond promptly to all communications from the Dominant, and must never make the Dominant feel ignored by her.

k)    The submissive will remind the Dominant on a regular basis, either verbally or through written communication, that it is her pleasure to serve him and she is thankful for him having her. In those communications, the submissive must refer to the Dominant as “Master” or “Sir”. In all communications, the submissive shall try to refer to the Dominant as “Sir” as often as possible.

l)      The submissive is not allowed to satisfy herself sexually or have an orgasm without permission of Dominant. Dominant has the right to instruct her on the specifics of self-pleasuring to include method and duration.

m)  When the Dominant comes home from work, the submissive will greet him at the door and kneel before him in the bedroom before they start their evening activities.

Section III: Punishments

The submissive and the Dominant agree that appropriate punishments are necessary for the growth of the submissive. The following are a list of potential punishments the Dominant can use on the submissive with the understanding that the list can be altered or added to at any time depending on the effectiveness of the punishment. Punishments may include, and are dependent on the severity of the punishment:

a)    Denial of sexual contact, masturbation, or orgasm.

b)    Writing assignments

c)    Time outs/isolation/forced to sit in a corner for an extended period of time

d)    Washing mouth out with soap

e)    Physical punishment that go beyond daily BDSM activities to include extensive caning, flogging, or other inflictions deemed appropriate by the Dominant.

Section IV: Alteration of contract

This contract may not be altered, except when both Dominant and submissive agree. If the contract is altered, the new contract shall be printed and signed, and then the old contract must be destroyed.

Section V: Termination of Contract

Under certain circumstances, events, and conditions, termination of this contract may be wanted, warranted, and executed, but must be an absolute last option by both parties when no other recourse is possible.

Section VI: submissive’s signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to give myself completely to my Master, and further accept His claim of ownership over my physical body, heart, and mind. I understand that I will be commanded, trained and punished as a submissive, and I promise to be true and to fulfill the pleasures and desires of my Master to the best of my abilities.

Signature____________________________________________            Date_____________

Section VII: Dominant’s signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this submissive as my property, body and possessions, and to care for her to the best of my ability. I shall command her, train her, love her, and punish her as a submissive. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall come to the submissive as long as she is mine.

Signature____________________________________________            Date_____________


1.     To be able to swallow Sir’s cum
2.     To stop smoking completely
3.     To get into better physical shape and maintain physical fitness throughout the year
4.     To regularly shave Sir’s cunt and keep it to an acceptable appearance.
5.     To continue working on her patience.


1.     To get into better physical shape and maintain physical fitness throughout the year
2.     To continue to improve on consistency.
3.     To propose to his submissive.


  1. Like your contract. WE have one posted at our sight too, with a few more "bells and whistles", but this is a good one.


  2. I like some of your details at the beginning. When W/we update ours, I'd like to see some of those similar items added. Thanks for sharing. :)

  3. My husband and I (D him me s) just started BDSM this week and I have been looking for a contract that wasn't too hard core. This one is great--made a few tweaks. I like it. Husband is reviewing it now...I'm waiting for his approval :)

  4. I've read this entire blog and am greatly encouraged by it. You have a wonderful relationship. Could you please explain paragraph g under section II of the contract? It would seem through structure and rules that the Dominant puts in place that he would be the "driving force" behind a submissive's balance between her work self/nature and her submissive self/nature. Thank you.

    1. I am glad you are finding encouragement from our blog, owlsub. When we first started off, we found encouragement from others and still do this today. That's the beauty of the online world, as it helps us realize we are not alone in this journey. It's not something we can announce when we go to PTA meetings, at backyard barbecues, or at our children's sporting events.

      To answer your question...I had to go back and look at this, and I would probably make a change to it. For that matter, this is not the most recent contract, so need to make that change as well.

      In regards to that item...this was before L and I settled into becoming a family, and if you have read the entire blog, you understand where things were and where things are now. When this started...L and I were not family, I was not a guardian to her children, and what that item in the contract reflected is that I did not want her submission to me to take priority over her being a mother. Things are different now.

      That still holds true for her work. I would not want what I require of her to get in the way of her work. I control her 24/7, yes, but I wouldn't require her to do something for me if it interfered with her work/job/career. (of course, that being said, I can think of many times in the past where I have ordered her lunch break to be spent with me, in the bedroom, while the children are at school, so that I can make her make....sounds.)

      Hope that helps. Let us know if you have questions. Oh, and if you would like to talk to L separately to get her perspective, her email is submissivegirl907@yahoo.com

  5. Thank you for the response, which made perfect sense.