There are couples out there who engage in threesomes and swinging and are not a D/s couple, just as there are D/s couples who do not engage in threesomes and swinging. I think the fact that we are a D/s couple is what makes it work so well for us. L is able to be at complete ease with doing it without any hang-ups or worries because, after all, she is simply doing as told and knows that it pleases me. What she won't readily admit to is how much SHE enjoys doing it and finds it to be a complete turn-on. As I have told her, it is easy to do as told when you enjoy doing what you are told to do.
I am a rather possessive Sir; I will be the first to admit. I don't tolerate L flirting with other men and have rules in the contract that stipulate how she is to be around other men. I require her to act at all times like a woman who is owned. She's done much better over the last year in that area; not easy given that she is a bit of a natural flirt.
So it would be somewhat surprising given my possessive side that I would have no problem with watching her on her hands and knees, sucking away on another man's cock. That I would have no problem watching her have an orgasm from another man pounding her from behind while I fucked her face. And that when the session is over, and the anonymous man has left our hotel room, we seem to be just a little bit closer.
The D/s makes a different here as well. Everything is done, for the most part, under my control. I decide when it takes place, who it will be with, what the rules will be. A half hour or so before the man joins us, I spend some time working her over, getting her into her subspace, so that it is even easier for her to do what she is being told to do.
It is also a matter of pride for me. I enjoy sharing her, because I am proud of her, and I like to show off my possession. I know how exceptional of a cocksucker she is; how amazing it feels to try and penetrate the tightness that is her pussy; how oh so wet she gets, and more. Each of the five men have lavished praise on her when all was said and done, complimenting her on those areas that i just mentioned as well as talking about what a good pet I had.
So what's not to love?
Five different men, but each situation had its similarities. I found each man on Craigslist, a bit of a risk sometimes, but I am careful with the screenings and make sure they understand what the rules are. Condoms are required and they are not allowed to come in her mouth (I forgot to mention that to #3 which led to a slightly awkward moment that i can't really blame him for). L, who wants the situation to be as anonymous as possible, is blindfolded the entire time, though with #5 she took the blindfold off towards the end.
We don't meet ahead of time for drinks or anything. Once I find someone I am comfortable with, they simply meet up with us in our hotel room. There is no meeting up afterwards, or further communication.
We have yet to try a DP, though came close to it while in New Orleans but L managed to get out of it (which is why I said earlier that I am in control for the most part, L still manages to find a way from time to time to have a say in what happens...). It usually starts with her taking turns sucking us off, while we pass her back and forth with the leash attached to her collar. In the bed it is a combination of taking turns fucking her or her being fucked by one of us while she sucks on the other.
It is an exceptionally intimate and kinky act, and I think a big part of the enjoyment is the fact that it is so kinky. And it most certainly helps that we love each other so much and are so comfortable and confident in our sexuality.
That being said, I think it will take a little more time before we build up to a MFF threesome. It will happen. I don't push that one because I know that L's discomfort has some to do with her past, and, also, it's not as easy to find an anonymous female as it is a male.
That's fine. As I tell L, we have a lifetime to learn and grow and discover our kinkiness together...occasionally bringing others along for the ride.