Friday, March 28, 2014

10 random things about S

A follower asked  L and I to post 10 random things about each other. Here are mine. L will do hers later.

1. I have reviewed theater for the local newspaper for close to 15 years now.
2. I have fed grizzly bears for a living.
3. I have been a three-time winner in a local outhouse race.
4. My mother died when I was two years old.
5. The trait that defines me more than anything among people who know me is my sense of humor.
6.  I am considered an introvert on the Myers Briggs test.
7. My favorite TV shows are "Shameless" and "Californication" (both on Showtime)
8. I greatly enjoy public radio
9. I used to be a marathon runner
10. I am an adjunct faculty member for the local community college.

Thursday, March 27, 2014


I was thinking today why I do not contribute to the blog as much as I used to. A big part of it is my new job. 12 hour workdays, plus contract work that i do at home in the evenings, as well as being an attentive Master and taking care of children, make it difficult to find time to blog.

I think another part of it is that we have gotten so settled into our D/s relationship, that it seems such a part of who we are, that I don't necessarily see what to blog about. My pet wears her collar when she goes to bed at night, I cane her, I use her in whatever manner I wish, she has her duties to follow during the's what we do these days. Like breathing and eating. It's what we do.

I do not want to give the impression that we are settled into a routine, that things are mundane or boring. On the contrary. We still find delightful surprises in our world. We have not hit our limits, either one of us, in what we are capable of. L is capable of being even more submissive, and I am capable of being even more Dominant. We often talk about how things would be if we did not have children around, and agree that we would probably venture into a Master/slave relationship. We've talked about me coming home to L, her kneeled before me naked and collared, and her evening spent at my heels. We talk about these things, and we both get aroused by it, and end up fucking each other silly.

So, no, nothing mundane at all. Still lots of surprises. For instance, the other night, I had L pretty deep under and I pulled out the Hitachi and used it quite aggressively on her clit, and the ensuing orgasm soaked our sheets. L used to argue that female ejaculation was a myth. She has since learned the reality of it.

Anyway, this blog was called questions, because that is what we are throwing out there to our readers. Ask us questions. Ask us...anything. We'll reply here on the blog (you can ask if you want the reply from L or me). Or, you can email us.


We've both started to realize that we are no longer amateurs at this. Two years in does not necessarily qualify us as veterans, but we know what we are doing pretty well. More than anything, we have survived insurmountable odds to get where we are. We have made it to the summit of shit mountain, and once we got there, we blew that motherfucker up, and have left it in our wake.

We are survivors.

We are amazing.

We are in love.

And if we can help others, well, all the much better.

With fond wishes,
S & L

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

What she said

Anyone who has followed this blog over an amount of time know that it is rare when L ever contributes anything, and when she does, it is at my command. I also know there are quite a few followers out there who are big fans of her words, and look up to her.

A couple of weeks ago a new anonymous follower posted a question to my posting "Am I off the hook tonight?" which went as follows:

"Just discovered this blog and am reading through various entries. Don't know your full history. But this entry stopped me. How can caning her, from 500 to 2,000 strikes EVERY NIGHT, not be very harmful to her? Her butt never gets a chance to heal. How does she ever sit down without constant pain? How is this considerate of her physical well-being? I'm not trying to be an asswipe here, but statements like that sound nutso. (And no, I'm not a troll trying to upset you. I like to get my ass and pussy spanked too, but only for pleasure, never punishment.)"

I shared her comment with L, and suggested (pretty sure it was a suggestion and not a directive) that she should be the one to respond to her. This was what L said in reply, and I feel it is among the very best words she has ever contributed to this blog.

"Thanks for the comment. It is L. S thought that I should reply and give you my perspective. First of all, a daily caning and a punishment caning are two very very different things for me. I hate being punished. It hurts like hell, I have cried even and never do whatever it was again. Which is how it is supposed to work I guess. It certainly works for us. But a regular daily caning is not even close. Now to be clear, not everyday is the same. Sometimes I am not in the mindset and just am not able to get into it (go under is what S calls it) or S is tired and brings me to the brink and then goes to sleep. But our routine is fairly consistent and yes, I do get caned hard for periods of time that people would find Nutso (we stopped counting a long time ago). There is so much more to it than the physical aspect that unless you have gone there, it would be hard to imagine. First the physical aspect is something that takes a bit of time to get to. What S calls going under or subspace is truly something. I used to get a pretty lengthy warmup each night....the kind where with each strike you are wishing for it to be harder after a while. Those days are pretty much history unless it has been several days in between canings. Now S starts off quite hard and if I move or make a sound too loud, he will strike the sides of my legs or some other part that really stings. Last night he used his flogger with the steel tips for a long time. It was.....good. I know, not a very good descriptive word but it was. By the end I was dripping and completely gone, wanting more. I am not a masochist at all and I do not find pleasure in pain, I stub my toe and cry. This is just...different. I am able to get to a point where I do not feel it at all. My adrenalin had been kicked into overdrive and kept there for a while as you cannot move nor make a sound. I can barely hear the caning or whatever. Also, to answer your question, I have not had a bruise in over a year. Sometimes a little sore but absolutely no marks or any sign of is really weird to be honest and I wish I would bruise. 

Then there is the other aspect of it that is not physical. The fact that you are owned and controlled really rears its head during this time. It helps calm me. If we go for periods of time without I get edgy and am irritable. It helps set the world right again and holy is it a good stress reliever. If only they could bottle that feeling the world would be such a nicer place. Plus it pleases S and isn't that what it is all about? It sets him straight also. I don't know, we may be nutso but we sure are happy these days. So Anonymous, you do like a light spanking for pleasure....I say sometime, take it a step further....see what happens. Smile"

I'm a very lucky Master. 

Even if I am a bit....Nutso.