Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Snapshot at 201

I realized this morning while looking through the blog that my last posting was #200 since beginning this online journal more than two years ago. By using the concept of basic mathematics, this would be posting #201.

You see, I'm smart like that.

So what do I have to say about the taming of L for #201?

I would say we're in a very good place, but there is still work to do. But that is true for anything in life. We should always be striving to improve in all aspects of life, from ourselves to our job to our relationships, and so forth.

We're in a very good place, but for me, there is a little something....missing....right now that I can't quite put my finger on. As I told L in an email last week:

I am going to put some new changes into effect. I need some time to think about them and what I want exactly. I do believe that with my change in employment some new ways for you to demonstrate your submissive to me outside of the bedroom are in order. There is little you have to do for me anymore...no cooking for me, no bringing me coffee in the morning, etc. The kneeling on a daily basis is helpful. Collaring you before bed is helpful. Your submissiveness is quite evident when we are in bed, but I need something during the rest of the day. I'm sure you have no doubts that my twisted mind will come up with something.

Five days later, I have not yet identified those changes. I am not sure what they are just yet and don't want to just randomly choose something simply for the sake of change; I need to spend some time thinking about this, analyzing what it is I need from L to advance to what I am considering the "next level" of our relationship. This, of course, all has to be done within the context of the vanilla life we have to lead as well. Somethings just aren't possible, because, darn it, there are children in the house.

I do know that it is on my shoulders. L will obediently go along with whatever I say, albeit with some sass and backtalk along the way that will of course be dealt with appropriately. Yesterday when she left her office she neglected to call me "Sir" (when she arrives at work and leaves work everyday she has to address me as "Sir" in her text to me.). I was out of the house at the time, so when I got home, I immediately went into the bedroom and closed and locked the door, had her turn over on the bed, and I pulled her pants and panties down and caned her. It surprised her. 

But I know she liked it.

She likes my sternness and assertiveness. I think that is a big component to the change, that I need to be more stern and assertive with her. You might think after what I just said that I am rather stern with her already, but I really am not. I'm a rather kind Dom. L would agree. Don't let the picture a few posts back of L's scarred ass hint otherwise. Last night, for instance, with L's period underway I spared her having to swallow or being fucked up the ass by coming on her...all over her. Would I have preferred the alternative? Yes, but as I said, I'm a rather kind Dom...(L might question that given the force of the facial she had to deal with...)

201 posts. 121,247 page views. 97 followers. 

Perhaps by #202 I will have given this more thought out and I can share with you wonderful readers what that next step is. 

I'm sure you would like to know.

Not as much as L would, however.


  1. I love hearing your thinking on this subject, on how to have her show submissiveness at other times. Can't wait to find out what you come up with.

  2. Happy 201st post :-) It's really good that you are taking your time in instituting changes and thinking about them rather than just pulling something out of your hat. Good luck finding something that blend in with your vanilla life!

  3. well done on your 201 blog post! You are a good dom cause you think things over and you care a lot about L. Looking forward to your next post

  4. Are you trying to over compensate since really now she's the breadwinner for the family? It kind of seems like lately you've tried to punish her because she's now really the one with the power...

  5. Now you need no defending, but I would like to comment to Anonymous.

    In any relationship money may drive love and respect. D/s marriages carry a different level of connection though. I assure you from one very satisfied sub/wife sugar mama- I know how much you and L loved this term =) money means NOTHING. Money does not, and cannot, buy a sub/wife's love and respect for her Dom/Husband.

    Re: your post
    The thought behind your decisions is terrific to hear! What loving consideration you are giving to L and all that you both are needing. Good luck and can't wait to hear how you two progress!

    XOXO Pearl

  6. It's L

    The comment surprised me actually. I had not even considered any of that and it never would have crossed my mind. S's employment status....nor mine....would ever change how we feel. Kinda horrible that someone would think that. Now mind you, S has more time at home and more time to think with his wonderfully kinky mind. I will enjoy this for as long as it will last, which will be a week as he has gotten a new job that pays as much as the last one and is flexible without all the long hours. So it all worked out....and for some reason it didnt.....we would have been just fine.


  7. Thank you to all of you for your well wishes and comments. Anonymous, I appreciate your comment and perspective as well but as Pearl Necklace and my sweet L both commented, it is not like that. I was having these thoughts even prior to my employment status changing, they are just surfacing more than ever now because of the extra time I have on my hand.