On rimming and other taboo matters

In yesterday’s post on the Wheel of Misfortune I lightly touched upon the subject of rimming as something I enjoy L doing with me. We’ve done it a few times, nothing really extensively, and each time has been after a night out on the town and both of our inhibitions are significantly lowered (odd to even say that, since, if you read our blog, we clearly lack in any kind of inhibitions with each other!)

I enjoy it. I’ve also enjoyed the times we have tried experimenting with L massaging my prostate, and we have never quite gotten there, at least not to the level that I have read about where men have described in having some highly explosive orgasms as a result.

Not only do I enjoy it, I have no issue with the fact that I enjoy it, which seems to be a sticking point for hetero men who think it is wrong to get enjoyment in that taboo part of their body. I no more worry about the taboo of that particular act then I do of the taboos of everything else I do with L. Last night I allowed her to touch herself while I put my hand under her collar. As she touched herself, I would pull the collar tight and completely cut off her breath. Then release. I kept doing this, and managed to time the final one right before she came, pulling it as tight as I could, then releasing just as she released, a combination of orgasm and gasping for air.

That’s pretty taboo. Some people might take issue with that particular act, but quite frankly, I don’t care.

I’m secure and confident in all that I do with L, my lovely little sub who unlocked my twisted mind. If one concerns themselves with any type of concept of norms, they ought not to be in a D/s relationship. D/s relationships and the world of BDSM rewrite the definition of norms, we throw them out the window and we create our own that suit our lifestyle, our desires, and our needs.

So back to rimming.

Are there others out there who engage in it? I am curious to know what some of my readers have to say and what their experience is.

I find it a rather Dominant act, to be honest. There is the sensation of it that I enjoy, but also in the significance of the act itself, to have my pet’s head and tongue down there, doing something that I enjoy, while with one hand she strokes me. Or I stroke myself to leave her at the task at hand.

I like the rawness of the act.

I like raw with L.

I let L off the hook the other night when the Wheel of Misfortune chose rimming me as her activity. Yes, it would be the polite thing to do to completely shower ahead of time. As far as it falling into the category of things she really dislikes (the L trifecta of dislikes which includes swallowing, being fucked up the ass, and rimming her Sir), well, as D commented below, “rules are rules.” Last night when I got home I grabbed the contract and reminded L of the following item:

a)    The submissive will always respond to the sexual needs of the Dominant at any time in any manner that he sees fit, unless responding to His needs violates any other aspect of this contract. This includes engaging in sexual activities with the Dominant that might be outside of her comfort zone but she will do them as they please her Sir.

We are still working on some things, clearly, two years later. It’s fine I enjoy the pushing and pulling I have to do with L to get out of her all of the things that I pleasure and desire, with the freedom that no matter what those things are, I could care less about what the rest of the world might think.