Wednesday, May 7, 2014

On rimming and other taboo matters


In yesterday’s post on the Wheel of Misfortune I lightly touched upon the subject of rimming as something I enjoy L doing with me. We’ve done it a few times, nothing really extensively, and each time has been after a night out on the town and both of our inhibitions are significantly lowered (odd to even say that, since, if you read our blog, we clearly lack in any kind of inhibitions with each other!)

I enjoy it. I’ve also enjoyed the times we have tried experimenting with L massaging my prostate, and we have never quite gotten there, at least not to the level that I have read about where men have described in having some highly explosive orgasms as a result.

Not only do I enjoy it, I have no issue with the fact that I enjoy it, which seems to be a sticking point for hetero men who think it is wrong to get enjoyment in that taboo part of their body. I no more worry about the taboo of that particular act then I do of the taboos of everything else I do with L. Last night I allowed her to touch herself while I put my hand under her collar. As she touched herself, I would pull the collar tight and completely cut off her breath. Then release. I kept doing this, and managed to time the final one right before she came, pulling it as tight as I could, then releasing just as she released, a combination of orgasm and gasping for air.

That’s pretty taboo. Some people might take issue with that particular act, but quite frankly, I don’t care.

I’m secure and confident in all that I do with L, my lovely little sub who unlocked my twisted mind. If one concerns themselves with any type of concept of norms, they ought not to be in a D/s relationship. D/s relationships and the world of BDSM rewrite the definition of norms, we throw them out the window and we create our own that suit our lifestyle, our desires, and our needs.

So back to rimming.

Are there others out there who engage in it? I am curious to know what some of my readers have to say and what their experience is.

I find it a rather Dominant act, to be honest. There is the sensation of it that I enjoy, but also in the significance of the act itself, to have my pet’s head and tongue down there, doing something that I enjoy, while with one hand she strokes me. Or I stroke myself to leave her at the task at hand.

I like the rawness of the act.

I like raw with L.

I let L off the hook the other night when the Wheel of Misfortune chose rimming me as her activity. Yes, it would be the polite thing to do to completely shower ahead of time. As far as it falling into the category of things she really dislikes (the L trifecta of dislikes which includes swallowing, being fucked up the ass, and rimming her Sir), well, as D commented below, “rules are rules.” Last night when I got home I grabbed the contract and reminded L of the following item:

a)    The submissive will always respond to the sexual needs of the Dominant at any time in any manner that he sees fit, unless responding to His needs violates any other aspect of this contract. This includes engaging in sexual activities with the Dominant that might be outside of her comfort zone but she will do them as they please her Sir.

We are still working on some things, clearly, two years later. It’s fine I enjoy the pushing and pulling I have to do with L to get out of her all of the things that I pleasure and desire, with the freedom that no matter what those things are, I could care less about what the rest of the world might think.




18 comments:

  1. I think being comfortable with your self is important, there are so many taboos in life yet so many people do these kinds of things they would never admit it . I bet if you did a "taboo poll" you would get better results of the things people will do but will never admit to ... I love reading your blogs your always so honest with your readers... You give great ideas, insights and seriously it's nice sometimes to see others are so much like we are ...I often think maybe we aren't the abnormal ones but the normal ones ... ~ s

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    1. Thank you for your comment. I figure that by being honest, it is going to give others better guidance. Why hold back? We're all in this together.

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  2. I love rimming my Master simply because he enjoys it so much and therefore i like that i please him this way, i think as long as one is clean down there its not a problem, im quite happy to stick my tongue in his ass...its good to see him squirm for once lol

    re what you said about the choking, i have had many a critical comment the times i have blogged about breath play as its something we enjoy a lot, and for many, the extreme we go to people find uncomfortable, but i try not to let critical comments get to me.

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    1. Thanks for the reply Tori. I think cleanliness is the important thing here. I don't know if i will get around to L saying she loves doing that to me, but there is always hope!

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  3. Rimming...I'm with L on that one. Master hasn't asked and I'm not going to ask if he wants it! lol

    Breath play, I LOVE. Actually, I recently came from Master choking me and then giving me a really good slap to the face after he let go of my neck; no toys and no other touching. Amazing experience!

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    1. He just might ask you!

      Breath play is great. Hard to top it when it comes to control.

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    2. I should have ignored all the comments here; now I can't stop thinking I should ask if he wants it! lol

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  4. Taboo smaboo!! Hahaha. You are so right, there are so many taboo topics out there…and I really enjoy many of them. Sir and I partake sparingly in rimming…mostly because of timing and opportunity. It evokes some amazingly submissive feelings in me. I love the fact that he orders me to, and that he enjoys it. I will also message his prostate from time to time, infrequently as well, and he enjoys that also.

    As far as breath play, I absolutely LOVE that. I love that sense of control that he has over me, ultimate control. I trust him implicitly and know he won't go too far. I love that release!

    hugs,
    fiona

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    1. Thanks for the reply Fiona, always a pleasure to hear from you.

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  5. I have used my finger in his ass, which he enjoys during a blowjob, but the one time I offered my tongue, during a fit of slaviness (can I lick your ass?) he said no. Normally I wouldn't be so eager to do it. Not that it's such a taboo, maybe, but there is still um. a "poo comes from there" thought or hangup. I've had my own ass rimmed, and really enjoyed it, so I know the pleasure he's missing. Maybe I should ask that way? During a shower?

    Breath play is one of my favorite things. So hot! And yeah, taboo and dangerous makes it hot too. He doesn't choke me all out, just a little of this.

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    1. Shower with your Sir, dear, and see where that goes. If he is a smart man, he will let you lick away...

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  6. I nominated you for a Liebster award. http://slavetomasterblog.blogspot.com/2014/05/liebster-awards.html

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  7. I don't think that's taboo at all. My Sir has asked me to do that for him a few times over the years as part of an extended blowjob, and I didn't mind because it gave him pleasure, and made me feel extra naughty :-) And breath play is so yummy! Feeling his hand squeezing my throat puts me into a very submissive space.

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    1. Thanks for your comment River! That's the best way, when it is part of an extended blowjob.

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  8. I enjoy rimming my sub regularly. It definitely enhances her orgasms..I also find it is a great introduction to anal sex, which usually results in me ripping many orgasms from her..I have enjoyed being rimmed from time to time, but far less often..

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  9. Thank you for commenting davefan0609, good to hear from another Dom on this subject!

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  10. He's been rimming me on occasion recently, which slightly terrifies me - what if I fart?! What if there's poo?! etc. I'm not sure the sensation is amazing or anything, but you know, it's ok, and I like to be terrified so it's good way to get that kick.

    I'm slightly cautious about rimming him. I've sort of got there once or twice, and would like a shot if he directed me to. I guess there's a small fear about encounters of the poo kind but I generally find all of him yummy so I'm not too squicked out.

    I absolutely ADORE breath play. He tends to do it by pinching my nose when I'm sucking his cock, or pinching my nose and covering my mouth, but he's obviously been reading because the other night he did the hand in a v, push up under the chin thing which is a technique I only just read about recently myself. It worked a treat, btw!

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  11. pffttt, Rimming and prostate stimulation is a glorious act of obedience. my Sir finds it lovely. Cleanliness is key. she's lived with you. she knows what You smell like back there when unclean. Tonguing and unclean ass is just mortifying and nonsexual in millions of ways. Its just plain gross.

    But watching Sir cum hard makes this silly sub nuts! :)

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